~(After looking the suggestions for my brunch meal I just said why on earth mother you are suggesting me to eat oily food. As I am already in a mood to be more conscious about my food , less proteins and less fat and even less carbohydrates.
On the other hand my dad came to my room and asked me to have fruit juice which he freshly prepared,from oranges and grapes he brought early in the morning from market nearby.
Now both the scenes happened in one hour gap only and it’s really a conjuncture,
and that is a purposefully attempt to make me feel comfortable and calm after I just finished my college of about five and half years,and there is no room for telling my mother by me that please don’t disturb me even late afternoon.
And please no oily food for me.
Alas,I dared and sat with both of them after I finished my brunch.
Splendidly my opinions got a lump and they turned the other way by the time I was about to put my point forward.
I realized that they are totally different from me in terms of :
Thinking about every possible thing I can imagine.
My dad born in mid 1950s and mother born in later 60s.(both of them have been taught in totally different fields , environment and what not)
Grandparents both maternal and paternal side have been always into either a service or job related to practicing medicine from the time I am seeing them.
Same came into my Dad but eventually I landed up being an engineer.
Grandmothers,of whom one used to read me sukhmani and other always tells me what is coming on these days on aastha channel,by various Saints Mahatmas.
Here comes what I learn from my teachers in school which I think was rational and acceptable after studying science.They taught us that things like worshiping
Tulsi,Banyan tree etc and giving gifts and food to kids at last day of navratri , distributing sweets on diwali and holi are part of small lessons people learnt long back which they felt will help in making a good society full of interaction and exchange of ideas,happiness,etc.
You gonna think what has Tulsi to do with above mentioned about exchanging happiness and being more social?
Well actually it has some hidden science which people as in common people have been using but are not aware of it :).
Examples:
Tulsi has medicinal values like it increases immunity , and helps to fight tropical and subtropical diseases.
Banyan tree has a myth related to it that ghosts haunt around it during evening ;).
But its a myth just to prevent people from sleeping under it as it releases excess of carbon di oxide.
Don’t have non veg during sawan(rainy season) as chances of infection are more.
Now if I try to write them all things my parents have been doing including both Hinduism and Sikhism(though it is very simple just go to gurudwara have prashada and render your help or money which will be used to run it and give free food to everyone but drunks ;) ) I will end up writing a book as big as Mahabharata,or Ramayana etc.
But I can assure you it will take years to complete it ;) as all rituals done are different from place to place here in India.
Now as mentioned my parents are to doctors both did bachelors in medicine mother did in Ayurveda from Gurkul , Haridwar ,as her dad (my maternal grandfather did and taught her same in his clinic)
On the other hand my dad did in modern medicine as grandfather was always interested in medicine.Though he never earned a degree or practiced medicine he got retired as section officer in central government Steel plant at Rourkela,Orrisa.Where he as a hobby started learning homeopathy and eventually he found that it helped him and his family members.It got a real boost when his doctor friend in Yamunagar asked him to assist him in practicing.
So I always learned to respect and wish every one be it Hindu, Sikh, Muslim, Jain,Christian,etc.(I even did participated in an cultural festival during school days where I went on stage with Pagree on my head and three other hats in my hand,each hat was different and has its relation with different religion.I was supposed to switch them one after other.Which I did well got second prize).
Now all that and my mother’s very strictness about rituals and helping poor during my early upbringing gave me bit exposure to being humanitarian, caring , respecting elders,etc.(I remember as a kid I used to argue ;) why are you giving so much to temple management and poor when we are having bit tight financial problems , and it used to followed by a huge lecture twice once then and later when dad came back from hospital.)
But mother and father also made it to learn by heart that you don’t have to be a conservative in terms of understanding science or anything ; always keep your brain open and listen to what teachers are teaching you in school , as they(teachers) are more updated and learned.Parents wanted me to be post grad in science,cause they wanted their kids to be more educated than them. All in all they wanted me to see as person with rational thinking and scientific mind ;thus to be a torch bearer than just a follower, in short a leader.
Now patients and medical applicants used to visit at all possible hours and that
used to mean I have to greet them bring them water and take tea,drinks,snacks from kitchen to them.
One thing came out of it that I learned to interact with people and more precisely with people who were much elder than me.
And my parents always insisted me to interact with people and exchange ideas and learn to listen more(which used to be bit difficult sometimes).
I learned how ,when and what makes people thinking pattern,how much people have acceptability and intellect to learn and respect others views and also I learned how people create assumptions about other people’s point of view.
And finally I understood what makes a thinking pattern to grow and shrink or change direction; and how thinking patterns flow among people.
I learned how greeting and wishing others,be it anyone, gives him or her a great sentimental acceptance for what you are trying to say or even if you are not , it creates a space for some future interaction.
And I am an person who belong to a country of wisdom , pride and self respect and most importantly respect of everyone!
So availability of diversity is ample here and I have learned and inculcated that every person deserves respect and love and care.No matter which mindset he / she has.
If the person who is creating a problem to society or you then you must acknowledge him/her once or twice or even for heaven sake thrice but if the trend remains same , then you must tell his / her elders to try if they can stop that person
from creating further problems.
And thus if does not work then you always have option (of avoiding) higher authorities (but till what time is something which depends on a person tolerance level).
I swayed away from my theme, apologies ;).
Yes I was telling you about how I managed to learn about the thing known as being human.
I also got chance to be a person who despite of problems got a very optimistic mindset and that all came from my surroundings and people who around me.
I mean I can not thank them in whole of life by returning any favors they did for me.
Example :
Maternal grandparents which used to live near my place during schooling days of mine. My mother got ill for quite a long time and before that she was busy with all
sorts of things which included helping her parents in making home followed by her own home.Sometimes visiting local offices to get a waver on electricity bill of her maid,etc.
In all this my granny used to give us delicious food and grandfather used to give us
loads of money to buy stuff you know kids like to buy , I am talking about the time when there were no mobiles in 90s here in India , and no internet (at least in my case).
People like Sudhir Verma(lawyer,Reporter ,Yoga post graduate,though he has now shifted to businessman now from being scholar)
Sanjay Badoni(teacher,musician,singer, psychology graduate,even he has shifted into business but still the same scholarly attitude and knowledge).
Ashok Raj (Arya Samaj follower )uncle who taught me yoga and meditation.But above all he taught me to be more and more spiritual than religious.
He taught me importance of doing Havan, enhancing knowledge about surroundings,
learn about nature,and love all animals like he had cows ,dogs ,even these days he have them.
In academics there are people who were brilliant in school and likewise brilliantly helped and taught me many lessons.
There was this teacher named Mrs V Kaur who once said that kids days are gone when students were taught to be simple and have high thinking.You are in age of high living and high thinking,I never got the first one during schooling but what I got was high thinking and which I exploited and used in a positive manner as much was possible.
Watching cartoons was never a choice what inspired me then was Discovery channel and National Geography.
Also there were teacher named Mr.G Chandra Mrs S Baveja , Mrs A Kaul , Mrs V Kaul and many more which gave us not only just lessons of science and literature
but gave us knowledge wisdom and broad-minded thinking.
They always told us to behave and walk with a discipline .
I remember discipline was utmost thing which gave us so much to improve ourselves
that when we passed high school we were able to be determined enough to not only study for school but also to prepare for medical and engineering entrance tests.
We became more of people than being pupil that we started planning for the future and I am not talking about college life I am talking about where and what we will be doing after our college.
We prepared so hard that of our batch I don’t remember anyone from being dropping the idea of having higher education.People went to IITs,Medical colleges and best commerce schools.Not only around Haridwar but to places far from their homes I mean different cities,states ,etc.
Now I came to New Delhi prepared for PMT,while at that time I also joined a under graduate program in Biology ,when I devoted one year to preparing for PMT I switched my mind from just studying biology and got myself into Biotechnology field.
Well it was a very fine and strategic decision.
I had in my mind that I have to learn more about life, human biology ,related fields and the interactions with every possible nature element.
I started learning more about creating new things and indulged myself into the deliberate phases of amalgamating my college studies with number of possible activities like I did more than three plays and one street play.And I became more different day by day.As in I used to devote my full attention to the events and things like volunteering for college fest,but the results were always leading into new possibilities. I collected more than 1 lakh of money for college fest and I got promoted to from being a volunteer to the Marketing head coordinator and P R head coordinator.But that was a reward sort of thing I wanted to be in social group.
Nevertheless it helped,yes in many ways.
Now I was doing debates poster presentation , somewhere in my mind there was thing that I have to see where are possibilities and I diverted my mind into more focusing on questioning and reasoning than just accepting and learning.
I gave my most of the so-called fun life of college to sessions of hours and hours of
me being standing and drawing in front of white board I have.
Some bizarre things came out and eventually it went to places and people started criticizing and commenting.
I have already put my knowledge and I was not diverting from studies I was removing studies from my checklist and was inserting attending conferences I was talking to scientists.I went few times to scientists and professors and it led to a stages of
failure and more failures and I learned that I need to work on the things more from those stages and see if can get some response from someone who was not from the university around Delhi.I got chance it came as the first sign that it can be done
not now, but yes sometime later in years to come.
I left that there only.
Then came a fever of participating in MIT iGem , it went away like anything in a very
short span of time.But something really good happened before that I got a post
in the college which was very nominal in terms of work but gave me chance to
interact with more diverse people than were in council.
I was given this convener post under two eminent professor.
They made me to allow to organize few meetings and gather few interested students with people from other universities and countries,but the outcome was not helping me.
In between I did two courses of lean management and QMS , again it came out as something which added a burden of spending vital weekends into these courses.
I played basketball as a hobby and it came out as a practicing hours and hours,doing half courts and sometimes half matches.
Went IIT Delhi as extra for few matches and clearly came back same.
I gave a lot of time to activities that used consume my energy more than intellect.
I dropped the idea of propounding my self into creating and finally I ceased working on things.
But a new fever came of bionics and it went for a bit more duration than igem.
Again here something happened that all my learning of college became worthier
and sometimes worthless.Well its a contradicting but I got this last statement
as a result of outputs which were coming at times and at times I was hopeless.
The smartness was to find forums where I can exchange my ideas with people,
and foolishness was that I never came out with anything from those forums.
On other hand people like I was following in college started stating that I
have different approach , but its way too different.
I collected few results of my foolishness and went to a superb place Hyderabad,Novotel in an event Bioasia .
Seeing diverse ideas there I felt it was a right place to discuss and know
how can all this I had can be taken to next level.
Everyone answered patiently and gave me moral boost, but
on closing discussion they gave me a hint that I have to study more somewhere abroad.
I was hopeful and happy came back.
And learned that it’s never right to have opinion of few people.
Now hereafter more academics and a short phase of misleading realities and real possibilities came.
Now before anything I will write further I would just like to close this post here,as
if I have to write further then that will create something which I don’t want.
Dreams have worth when they become reality.Reality is dream if it has no worth.)!~
